Thursday, March 18, 2010

You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes, by Lisa McKay

You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes: And Other Great Advice from an Unlikely Preacher's Wife imageYou Can Still Wear Cute Shoes: And Other Great Advice from an Unlikely Preacher's Wife by Lisa McKay

My rating: 4 of 5 stars 


When most women think of a “pastor’s wife,” certain images come to mind: either a woman who is so holy she doesn’t seem human or someone sentenced to a life without fun, fashion, or friends. The sad truth is that pastor’s wives often walk a lonely road littered with impossible expectations and inconceivable identity crises. They’re the object of hallway conversations and sermon illustrations, but they rarely have the opportunity to be fully and freely transparent and unique.

Lisa McKay’s You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes is an utterly honest, charmingly witty, and biblically insightful guide for every minister’s wife who wants to serve the church and support her husband¾without losing herself along the way. You will feel an instant sisterhood with Lisa, a senior pastor’s wife happily serving in the trenches. She understands the challenges of a life lived before a congregation, from finding friends and coping with criticism to saying goodbye and starting all over again.

Through Lisa’s engaging style and fresh perspective, you’ll be encouraged to fully embrace being “married to the ministry”! In this book you’ll find answers to questions like:
* How can I effectively support my husband?
* What are my responsibilities within the church?
* Will ministry destroy my family? Am I doomed to a life of solitude?

The questions haven’t changed much over the years but the answers certainly have. Twenty-first century technology has introduced avenues to connect ministry wives in ways never before possible. Among other things, You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes demonstrates how to use online connectivity as a lifeline when isolation threatens to take over.

You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes is a must-have guide for every woman who wants to do the ministry wife “thing” well. Dealing with relationships between ministry wives, ministry families, and church congregations can be rewarding, confusing, and painful. With that in mind, Lisa uncovers insights from pastor’s wives and lay people as to how we can serve one another and Christ with faithfulness and humility.


After reading You Can Still Wear Cute Shoes, I am nominating Lisa McKay to be the official BFF for every pastor's wife!

Lisa's book is beyond encouraging - it's real, fresh, practical, and like having a heart-to-heart chat with someone who really understands what life is like as a pastor's wife. It's not just another guide to being a pastor's wife, it's a friend for a pastor's wife.

While I can not say that I agree 100% with every last word Lisa says in this book, I can say that this book is finding a permanent home on my bookshelf! Lisa addresses topics such as being appropriate, how to leave a church, what expectations you should have for your PK's, how to NOT be your husband's worst enemy, and a whole lot more. I appreciate the vulnerability with which she wrote and the Biblical basis for what she wrote.

For a a new Pastor's Wife, this book will provide an honest approach to living out her new role. The older Pastor's Wife may be challenged to think through her previously formed convictions and for the hurting Pastor's Wife this book will be a balm of compassion and encouragement.

I would encourage Pastor’s Wives to visit Lisa’s blog – for more encouragement. 


Lisa McKay and her husband, Luke, serve at a thriving church in Alabama. Together they are happily – if not always properly—raising three rowdy boys and one dramatic girl. In addition to being a wife and mom, Lisa is also a popular conference speaker. Visit Lisa online at

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This review copy was provided courtesy of David C Cook and The B&B Media Group

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